Sometimes we lose ourselves in order to suddenly fit in and integrate into a new environment-at college or in our job. It is strongly related to a lack of initiative or eagerness to go through a transformation, because it is easier-and even relaxing-to let be instead of becoming. These issues affect some people for years and lead to depressive tendencies, which is a strong threat to anyone who is losing vision for their goals and dreams. And if we already lived that way and get used to it, to become happy we have to start pushing ourselves again, to do things for ourselves, to remember what it feels like to be genuinely challenged by something. At the end of the day, we need to live our best fall. It is necessary to find a place where nothing is predictable and where our capacity to adapt is the key to handle events. The world is big, things are constantly changing, we need to learn and change to go forward.
“You can only control what you are doing at the present, not what happened in the past or what may or may not happen in the future.” One must understand how to detach from the things that are not for him; otherwise they can be a source of continuous frustration and dissatisfaction. In an ideal world, we accomplish what we need with less effort and distraction. However, it is impossible to guarantee such things in this world. We need to grow a tough skin and accept some things if we wish to live our best fall.
One of the ways to live your best fall is by taking the initiative. The truth is that most of the time, closing your eyes and hoping that the storm will go away only makes the problem worse. Sometimes the best option is to take the initiative and to make things happen. There is a big difference in being dependent on something and taking the leadership at the moment it is required. Living your best fall is about being a provider, someone who can make decisions and overcome obstacles that come their way. The world needs people who can take charge and lead others, who look forward and ‘pull’ instead of waiting for things to ‘come’.
Luck might not bring pearly gates, but it offers a different perspective. Such opportunities come to our doorstep from time to time, and they should be caught at the right moment. However, it is complicated to find the balance between being too bold or fearful about a given situation. Somebody might think that he can actually capture the moment and to where the stars will take him. It helps to work towards your goals. It allows you to stay on your own path and follow your routine even if sudden changes come, because instead of losing it, the problem will actually help you grow.
There are some accounts that we are the result of the actions we made in the past and the actions we will make in the future. The reality is that we cannot achieve happiness with a specific goal and a single person because there are a number of factors that affect our mood, and sometimes it is hard to set our vision and be consistent to reach a certain outcome. Happiness is something that we need to define for ourselves because it is a direct consequence of the choices we make. We cannot be happy if we don’t know what we want. In this sense, we need to have a clear vision of where we want to be in the long term. We can neglect what we want for an expected result and we can battle the lack of support from others, even the ones that we personally care about. With the right support, we can build a better future.
Take initiative to live a healthy life, at work or in a relationship, and you will see that every failure will be an opportunity to learn and move forward. For example let’s say you want to trim down weight so you can have more confidence in yourself. This time, you will try to replace your bad habit, by something good. Switch from those junky snacks to natural fruit juices and though it will be hard at first, you will get used to it and it will become your habit too. Similarly invest in slimming clothes and go to the gym, this will keep you engaged and train you for difficult self-discipline. Taking initiative is the first step in the right direction to live your best fall.
In life, we are the ones who define our destiny. An individual with strong self-confidence and principles is capable of meeting any challenge, even if the environment poses some resistance because he knows how to take initiatives and remain focused on his long-term goals. By living your best fall, you are creating your own story, leaving your mark in the world. And if you feel that you need a new challenge, go and find it.