Every married couple has occasional fights, but do you know the number one reason why a marriage falls apart? It is nothing! Dr. Gottman’s Love Lab studied more than 3,000 couples over a span of 40 years, and they concluded that most couples fight on topics like in-laws, money, or sex. Often, they fight because they failed to connect emotionally. Disconnect and distance are two reasons why marriages are not emotionally wealthy. But there are ways in which you can make things better.
Sharing about stress
Talking about your stress at work is an easy way to connect emotionally. Start by knowing how your partner’s day went. If it was equally bad as yours, console your better half. Share your side of the story too. Instead of ignoring your partner or being too grumpy about your day, start talking. If gossiping about your colleagues or boss is the secret to relieving stress, do that.
But ensure that you turn this into a habit. It is wise to start discussing stress after you start dating. You may have met over an online dating app, but that shouldn’t stop you from talking about your day. LoveSita is one app that allows the user to DM their match. The point is to connect at an emotional level. That is another way to skip small talks and to make conversations comfortable.
Couples aren’t often mindful of what their partner is saying. You don’t meet their emotional needs because of malice; you don’t meet them because you are unmindful. Listen to what he/she is saying. Acknowledge them. This will make them feel valued and heard.
Communicate your understanding
Communicating with your partner and sharing their happiness and grief is another secret to an emotionally wealthy marriage. You may have had a hectic day at work, and so has your better half. If he/she complains about something or is happy about their performance at work, share their excitement. It is not just about saying congratulations. The more you understand him/her, the better the relationship will work.
Express your appreciation
A small gesture of appreciation goes a long way to making your partner feel loved. It can be a text about how his/her meeting went to work if they had lunch and such small things. These may seem insignificant, but they work positively in hindsight.
This is the easiest habit to develop if you want a healthy and wealthy marriage. Cuddling, holding hands, and kissing is some of the best physical gestures you can extend to your partner. Don’t find any reason to hold hands with your partner; just do it! Sometimes, it is a non-verbal gesture of saying that you will always be there for your partner. That is a strong emotional statement that can overcome all the problems in your marriage.
A deep emotional connection does not happen in a single day. It is not a switch that you can turn on or off. You need to invest time and share your emotional side to make your partner fall in love you every day.